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Just for fun I am going to start posting the stupid/rude/funny things people say to me when I'm out with the kids. I get at least 5 comments on each outing and dozens of stares and whispers. Sometimes I'm nice and polite and I answer peoples ?'s and other times I pretend like I don't hear them. So today we stopped by the bakery to grab some fresh baked bread and as we were leaving a nice woman stopped us, looked at the kids for a few seconds and then asked if they were TRIPLETS! Hmmmmmmmmm. Seriously?
And here are a few more recent questions
1. Are you a day care?
2. Did you have a C-section with the twins?
3. Is your husband Asian?
4. I'm never ever complaining about my life again!
5. Do they know they're adopted?
6. Where are the rest of them?
Note: (This is in response to a comment I received from an anonymous reader). I don't think all of these questions are stupid. I think it's totally reasonable for someone to think that my husband is Asian, especially when I am out with the girls alone. I am just surprised that complete strangers will walk up to me and ask such personal questions, like the race of my husband, or if I've had a c-section. I know people are curious, but I'm not sure why they think that just because I have a multi-racial family it's okay for them to ask me such personal questions with out even introducing themselves first. I don't get offended and most of the time I don't mind the questions. I do however wonder if strangers will start thinking twice about the comments they make or the questions they ask when the girls are a little older and can understand more. I do think that most people are just curious, one because we have a mix of bio and adopted children, and two because they are so close in age.
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Oh my gosh, I'm laughing so hard right now. I can't believe how hmm, what's a tactful way to say this . . . dumb some people are! At least on good days they can make you laugh!
That is to funny! I got a comment once like that when I was a nanny. I had Lydia who was almost 9 months, and then another little girl who was 6 months but twice the size of Lydia. The two looked nothing alike and an elderly man said oh look at those twins and his wife said oh they can't be twins, one is much bigger than the other. Not even noticing that one Asian and the other American. I just laughed and kept walking.
LOL to the triplets question-how stupid can you be? And I don't get that last one-"where are the rest"...were they being sarcastic or what? If so, how rude.
that's wicked funny!! love it!
well, a lot of these were very funny. of course people could assume you have an asian husband, that's not too far fetched. and there are those twins where one parent is black and the other white and they're fraternal so one resembles more of the white and the other more of the black parent. i guess some of those things are POSSIBLE. but some of these people sound downright DUMB. keep sharing, they're good for a laugh :)
1 - Too sweet about the SP comment, thank you!
2 - Laughed so hard with the q-tip picture. SP did the same thing once but he had it in his nose (don't ask why, who knows!)
3 - Oh my gosh the triplet comment made me snort I laughed so hard.
People are interesting aren't they. We were at the park the other day and there was another asian boy with with his mom and dad (both asian as well) and someone came up to me asked me if he and SP were brothers. I said "huh? His nuclear family is over there with him and here we are with SP." Just because they are both asian they're brothers???
I'm sure people are not trying to be mean--except perhaps the "where are the rest?" comment.
I think it is completely understandable that people might assume your husband is Asian. My girlfriend is black and her husband is white. Her daughter has very light blond hair, blue eyes, white skin. She looks NOTHING like the mother. She gets comments all of the time about her daughter. People assume she is the nanny etc. and she is the bio mother.
Try not to look for reasons to be offended. After all, you knew going into this that people might ask about your family. If you think these questions are so stupid, you could use this as an opportunity to educate these "stupid people" about adoption/interracial families.
People sure don't hesitate to ask personal questions, I'm always surprised. On the flip side I've had a few really good comments too. One lady just looked at us, said how pretty and how long have we had her in a nice casual way. Another lady just told me she was so sweet that I should definitely have more kids!
It's amazing what people will say. Sometimes rude and sometimes curious. I'm glad you posted them. Once when Avah was about 8mths old someone asked Steve if she spoke Vietnamese? Hello, she speaks just baby babble right now!
Strange, what people will say. Glad you are able to let it roll off your back, hopefully they go home and replay their question and realize it wasn't appropriate/or worded the best.
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